Try to Surging from People Heartbreak or Setbacks

See, we take some decisions in life due to which our life changes a lot. So, just like we sometimes take a decision about something, like career, about which we think that the career which we have chosen. If we put a lot of our efforts in it, then we will be able to take care of many of our things here. And we have also seen many people doing this.

But when we spend many years doing that thing and the result also does not seem to be anything special. Then we again slowly start getting disappointed. We also start getting a feeling of guilt, because for how long can we carry on with something. The steps we take daily, by which we will reach towards our goal. When those daily tasks are not completed, then we start getting disappointed.

Now the work here should be such, which you can do on daily basis. But when you are not able to do that work on daily basis. Then from where you will get the feeling that you will be able to reach the goal which you have fixed. That’s why whatever you have learnt over a long term.

While looking at it, while doing the same work, when you change its mode, then you start understanding all those things. Due to which you start finding shortcomings in the work you have been doing for the last 4 years. And then you feel that “if only I had known these things 4 years ago. Then on the basis of the work that I am doing today, where would I have reached today?”

Analysis Your Past Work: –

You feel like this because the work you are doing today, was the same work you did as your first work 4 years ago. And the same work you are doing today after 4 years. So, a kind of hope is created here, “Tell me, if you had started 4 years ago, then the work that you have been doing till today. You would have reached some level in it in these 4 years”.

Now this is hope, now what can we say about hope, now the decision which we had taken 4 years ago. That decision which we had taken, nobody imposed that decision on us forcibly. On the basis of your own understanding, you considered that decision to be the best decision. And to fulfill that decision, you did everything that people do not often do.

At least the people around you were not doing it at that time. And it is not that you were short of resources, you get all kinds of resources. But despite having those resources when you are unable to reach your goal. Then how can you reach that end goal.

Daily Work With Guilt And Bounce Back: –

And one more option to reach any end goal is to do those tasks daily. On completion of which, you can reach your goal. But earlier this was not possible even on daily basis. Anyway, earlier you used to feel guilty sometimes from 1 week to 1-2 months and when you feel guilty for a long time about something.

And if you do not complete the daily tasks that you have decided, then you will definitely get the feeling of guilt. Whenever you see all those things. And find out that your main work has been pending in the last 1 month from today, then you must be worried. Sometimes you feel like working, but you see that whenever you bounce back to do your work.

Even then you able to sustain that work for 3-4 days at the most. Then the same story of disapproval and guilt begins. And you start working on yourself and then you start having self-doubt about your ability. Then you get to see its effect in every aspect of your life.

Figuring Out From Your Past Work, What Is Right For You: –

So, again in such a situation, then when you work on yourself. You figure out that, now the work which we want to do by ourselves, we agree to do that work by ourselves. And from now we start doing that work by some other method. And by that method you again start doing all those works.

Which you have been doing by yourself for last 4 years. The meaning of saying is that, when you figure out that my place is not in front of the stage, my place is behind the stage. When you figure out where your actual place is. And whereby your stay all your works which used to remain pending from 1 month to 4 months.

Now by staying behind the scenes at least you will complete those works at least daily. And you will start believing this from the very beginning, the day you work being behind the scenes. You see a lot of changes in yourself including your work. Which in earlier 4 years, you used to get to see only for a few days.

And then from 1 month to 3-4 months, you get to see who was not able to get it. So, then when you spend 1-2 weeks doing behind the scenes work and you start remembering all your old decisions. Then you feel bad about yourself, and it seems as if you got a chance 4 years ago. And you started your career with the same work, then you feel very bad and very bad.

Then you start getting angry with yourself and more so. Then here you feel, nobody cheated you here, you have been cheated by yourself.

Learning From Your External And Internal World Setbacks: –

And now here you cannot hold anybody else responsible for your cheating, as it happens in our external world. That when a person gets cheated by some special person, then he gets very angry with himself. And gets so much angry at the person in front of him, that if he had to, he would have killed the person in front of him. But in the outside world people tolerate even the biggest cheaters because of their family and children.

They teach this lesson to their children also and then their children do not trust anyone in the outside world. Because they have seen by living in their family, friendship or any kind of relationship that when we get cheated by a special person in the outside world. Then the whole world starts looking bad to us and their children think 1000 times before trusting anyone.

And when this cheat is found from 2-4 more people, then only that person and the person’s children or close ones have more trust. That if you are connected with the people in this external world, then do not expect anything from them, even if you help them.

Learning Not To Trust Anyone: –

So, let’s go, now a person who has seen in his surroundings that, if you make a connection with someone in the outside world, do not expect anything in return. This is one thing that is important. But the problem here is, when that person gets cheated by himself, then he again gets very angry at his own people.

Because such a person does not depend much on anyone in the outside world, he only has faith in himself. If some good things happen to him, then he appreciates it. And when not good things happen, then he learns something positive from it and moves ahead. It is okay if this happens in small activities of daily life.

And then he also takes his understanding and till now he has made changes on his personal level. If seen on his basis, then he gets small mistakes in between, due to which that person has changed his environment starting from his food habit to everything. Just in the hope of this thing, “if I include this new thing in my life, then most of my problems will be solved, I will have to maintain a little discipline.” And you remain disciplined, and you also do those things mindfully daily. Because of that your life becomes better than before.

That is to say, the more you will get deceived in your life, the more you will grow and the better you will shine. Now, till now whatever small deceived you have got, it is because of those deceived things. That you have been able to be the most different in your surroundings.

Learning Being Positive from Heartbreak: –

And when you get the biggest betrayal of your life, because of which you are completely ruined. Then you get even more heartbreak and now the story has gone so far that there is no question of looking back. Now you cannot even go back and what is going to happen next, this also you do not know anything. Now in such situations even if you want to come back, you cannot do so.

Because the level of intelligence that you have now, that level of understanding has come to you from the small heartbreaks you have got earlier. And when you get so many heartbreaks in these 4 years and so many changes come in your life. Then what happens if in between these small heartbreaks you get a very big heartbreak too. Now whatever you have said to yourself, by saying this it definitely makes you a calm and positive person.

But who will count the amount of loss this huge heartbreak has caused. In these 4 years I don’t know how many relationships I lost, how many people I lost, how many friends. And I don’t know what all I had to sacrifice, what about all of them. Everything doesn’t become alright by saying this in front of the world, “Whatever happens, happens for good”, it does feel bad, when such a huge loss occurs.

Don’t Take Too Much Seriously Your Heartbreak: –

Now it is not that we cannot compensate for that loss, you will get back the things, how will you get back those people, tell me for whom you had spent so many dreams. It is also not that we should have taken or given more to those people. If those people were in touch at that time, then something or the other would have been sorted out. And because of this big heartbreak you neither spent time with your family, nor could you keep your family members happy with your actions, nor could you manage your love life, nor could you maintain friendship with your friends.

You start feeling as if you have been defeated from everywhere. Now even after writing everything I cannot explain it, because some things are only to be felt.

Take Patient When You Have Heartbreak: –

Now whenever you get the biggest heartbreak in your life, you have to be patient at that time. And whatever you are feeling, you have to let it happen. Here you have to remember all your old heartbreaks that you have faced. And the positive changes that came in your life because of those heartbreaks; you have to remember all those positive changes.

And see that from next time, you can get even bigger heartbreaks, due to which it can also happen that you have to start everything from the beginning again. So, you do not have to worry in such situations; you have to keep in mind that you are way ahead of the person. Who is starting for the first time, because now you have added experience also to your things to do. Now you get used to heartbreak in life, otherwise you grow more, and your intelligence also increases.

You yourself look at yourself and observe, the level of intelligence you have now, the level of intelligence you had 4 years ago. You will find yourself more understandable and intelligent today as compared to 4 years back. A person moves forward by doing things and as long as life exists, sometimes you will get heartbreak due to your own decisions.

Sometimes you will get heartbreak due to someone else. And right now, you are working at your personal level, when you will work at the level of society or country. Then you can get this heartbreak from your society as well as the entire country.

Conclusion: –

So, you should not take anything too seriously, all things are temporary, you just keep learning from all those things and keep moving ahead in life. And you keep your experiences in mind and keep moving ahead. There is no need to be too sad and there is a lot of work ahead. Do all this and keep enjoying life and keep increasing your understanding daily.

You will keep becoming better than before every day and the setbacks of life will not bother you so much again. Because you will have got used to fighting with some new things daily. A real human being is one who is learning something or daily ready to fight everything to make things better. There is no point in getting demotivated, his experiences inspire him daily to fight more and more in life and to become better every day.

And the things which seem right to you, and an intelligent person also finds them right. Then do not be fooled by those things, even if you have to live alone in the middle. One day or the other a person like you will find you, you keep doing your work.